Are you a butch or femme?

My results:

HARD ANDROGYNE
Your score placed you in the category of Hard Androgyne. This is the "tom boy" type of ranking. You may also wish to review Androgyne and Gentle Butch, the two categories surrounding you. In a ranking across the femme/butch gamut, if 1 is femme and 100 is butch, you fall between 53 and 60 on the scale. For a review of where you fall in the overall population in numbers, refer to this chart. Your group encompasses folks of all types, genders, and orientations; it includes a large number of males and averages around 41 years of age.

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Most of the time you really don't think of yourself as butch or femme, but if pressured, you tend to react aggressively - either to solve a problem or to defend yourself. You aren't extremely masculine, yet are more drawn to your masculine side than your feminine side.

Security is paramount to you, and the locks on your house and tendency to monogamy reflect that. You like money in the savings and a retirement plan in place. You are nervous and insecure without that. You are a good provider, often appearing in upper management positions, and are an excellent supervisor.

Logic and mathematics fascinate you, and you have a very good memory. You are best remembering what you have seen in a video sense - sound and picture. About half of what you read sticks with you and what you hear goes in one ear and out the other. Pictures you remember very well.

You like action adventure movies and books, though you don't read a lot. You are heavily into technology, computers, and fun lil gadgets to play with.

As a parent you are strict but not overbearing, and tend to be a bit over protective. You are a staunch defender of your legal rights.

For partners you prefer a softer femme, along the lines of the Classic or Lipstick Femme. For friends you encompass everyone, though you find Extreme Butches a bit plastic and pure Androgynes indecisive.

You know, the only thing that's NOT right about this "assessment" is the very last part. I tend to lean more toward those like myself than toward the more "feminine" types.

Take the test yourself and let me know how you scored!

Butch or Femme Test

Better Living Through Chemistry - Part II

I've been on the Prozac now for just a day shy of 5 weeks. As hokey as this may sound, I feel like I'm living in a totally different world. I take delight in the smallest of things -- a Dutch Iris opened up in our garden overnight and this morning when I saw it, I clapped my hands in childlike glee. As I'm walking outside, I catch myself stopping and turning my face toward the sun, just reveling in it. Food tastes better! (That MAY NOT be a good thing -- LOL!) I find myself laughing and just enjoying each day more than I ever had.

But my relationship with Lisa -- WOW! Has it changed? No, I don't think so. Is it better? No, I don't think that, either. It's more relaxed, I think. Maybe a bit less stressful for her because she doesn't come home wondering whether I'll be weepy or raging that night. And with that relaxation comes such special feelings of being together, such joy, feelings I never really recognized before. I love Lisa, always have. But I can actually FEEL the love emanating out of me toward her and I can actually FEEL the love coming back at me.

I once professed to another woman that I loved her deeply, profoundly, and would do so forever, that she was the love of my life and that, even if I found another to love, it could never be as deeply as I loved her. I often wonder where she is, what she's doing, and think fondly of her but in my heart I know that the role she filled in my life was NOT to be the love of my life, but to open my heart to love and be loved by this spectacular woman that I have found on this journey in life.

Lisa and I started off talking a lot -- I found her a fascinating person to talk to, with her knowledge of so many things, her quick wit, her childlike love of cookies and ice cream, those piercing blue eyes, and that wonderful way she has of spinning a yarn. But now, five years later, we talk just as much and just as frequently. We talk to each other on our cell phones during our commute home each night, we talk about politics, abortion, world events, local events, people, friends, our days, and I STILL find her fascinating to talk to.

And, now that I'm on the Prozac, I enjoy it even that much more. I notice more things now. Like the way I find her studying me in the evenings when we're watching television. I'll say "what?" and she'll say "Nothing, just enjoying the scenery." Sometimes I'll find her looking at me and I can TELL that she's thinking how much she loves me, and I simply say "I love you too!" She grins.

Yeah, menopause isn't so bad with a Prozac chaser...